Taking Responsibility for Your Relationships

Questions for Reflection:

How would you describe your level of SKILL in living out The 4 Habits in your relationships?

  1. Which people / groups do you tend to criticize more than others?
  2. Who do you need to be more careful and less crushing with?
  3. Where are there unchecked assumptions and biases that need Courageous Conversations?
  4. Who do you need to invest more time with, to make stronger connections?

2.  Think of three relationships that are really important to you.  On a scale of 1 to 10 (with 1 being ‘not interested’ to 10 being ‘very motivated’), how would you describe your level of WILL to work on making each relationship more of a success?

  • Relationship 1, your WILL score:
  • Relationship 2, your WILL score:
  • Relationship 3, your WILL score:

3.  If you had to choose just one habit to work on first to help improve all three relationships, which of The 4 Habits* would that be?

  • Relationship 1, Habit to focus on:
  • Relationship 2, Habit to focus on:
  • Relationship 3, Habit to focus on:

* Reminder of The 4 Habits…

  • Habit #1: BE CURIOUS, not critical
  • Habit #2: BE CAREFUL, not crushing
  • Habit #3: ASK, don’t assume
  • Habit #4: CONNECT, before you correct


The long-awaited book in which you can discover The 4 Habits to all successful relationships.